How to address the word in a child’s vocabulary today? Many kids reach to this word as an easy grasp to define an item, action, state of mind in their daily interaction. However, seems many parents and teachers are a bit too sensitive in the application of the word; almost as if it correlates to the use of the word “retarded” which is highly frowned upon in today’s conversations.
Adjective, noun usage in a statement, declaration, question, pronoun, formal title (stupid ass)
Stupid is a pretty broad word. Some more creative and colorful ways to define things or actions are words like dolt, dull, dumb, dense. Merriam-Webster defines the word as:
1 a : slow of mind : obtuse b : given to unintelligent decisions or acts : acting in an unintelligent or careless manner c : lacking intelligence or reason : brutish
2 : dulled in feeling or sensation : torpid
3 : marked by or resulting from unreasoned thinking or acting : senseless
4 a : lacking interest or point b : vexatious, exasperating car won’t start> (Merriam-Webster, 2009)
Receiving Big G’s progress report was a surprise. He was progressing well in kindergarten. His boredom and troublesome behavior was a side effect of his excellence as well. Tickets that rose in color, much like a soccer penalty, were issued for the varying degree of his offenses. A penalty for talking too much, rough-housing and playing in line, normal kid stuff. So a color scale is applied to enforce rules so children understand proper behavior in school.
Specifics of Stupid
Needs to be reminded to keep hands to himself when playing or upset, and not to use words like “stupid”
I should not be too upset, but I struggle with this statement. Why not use the word stupid? Why not correct or offer constructive feedback? If he is calling people stupid that is one issue, but that was not specifically addressed. If Big G is calling people stupid, then the problem could be remedied immediately. However, the problem is that he is addressing people as stupid. The problem lies in the fact that he is saying the word at all.
But if he is saying SOMETHING or an IDEA or an activity is stupid then that is his feeling and opinion on the matter. Furthermore, the something, idea, activity, etc may very well be STUPID to my boy. His use of the word STUPID indicates he is not presented with an intellectual challenge. Meaning….it’s stupid. I would be more upset had he said something was Effing stupid.
Proper Feedback about Stupid
I would also have expected more in the student-teacher department on the progress report. Proper feedback and something more constructive in the fashion that we acknowledge the childs limitations in their vocabulary and then expound on being better.
“Uses word stupid, might suggest using different feeling words or adjective to define feelings, such as: ‘I don’t want to’, ‘I don’t like it’, ‘it’s boring’, ‘its not fun'”
Do you see where I am going with this?
I think I might have been more receptive to that statement, rather than the vague, stupid, unintelligible, statement leaving me to stew until parent teacher conferences in a MONTH!
What would you suggest? Do you have a problem with the word stupid? I know I have a problem with some uses of stupid, but not to define something that does not engage my child in an intellectual fashion of his liking.
What do you think?